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Planning thoughts, or something.
There's going to be a lot of wedding thoughts going through this journal over the next while, I think. Ah well. I am starting early!

Dre and I are tentatively thinking June 2011, on a Saturday, as a wedding date. It would be ideal, since he'll have school then and a number of guests probably will be, too - not to mention the number of people we'd probably be asking to fly/drive in. So during break would be great. On the downside, it turns out June is the most popular/expensive month and Saturday is the most popular/expensive day, so in that sense, things could get ugly.

Need to call parents and ask them if they're willing to put money in and if so, how much. We REALLY can't afford much on our own. Once a budget is figured out, can start with some very early planning and ideas as to what is reasonable for maximum awesomeness.

Guest lists are going to be a pain in the ass. I'm so afraid I'm going to forget somebody I really want to come or have to cut people out I also really want to come. Both will probably happen. And there is family. Oh, the family.


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sylvercheetah From: sylvercheetah Date: October 7th, 2009 09:21 pm (UTC) (Link)
If I can do any help in planning this let me know. I have been involved (observed, whatever) the planning of no less than a dozen weddings in the last three years. I have to admit I really enjoy planning weddings.
ardweden From: ardweden Date: October 14th, 2009 06:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
I maaaay end up taking you up on that! Not sure yet. But thank you! You're always welcome to comment on anything I post here, of course.
lirazel From: lirazel Date: October 8th, 2009 02:10 am (UTC) (Link)
Be prepared for your family to totally flip out. Just sayin'
sylvercheetah From: sylvercheetah Date: October 8th, 2009 03:32 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh yeah, families and their thoughts. Here is a handy phrase that through the years I have learned helps people - "Your suggestions/demands for my wedding will be taken into consideration in direct proportion to your financial contribution."
dreol From: dreol Date: October 8th, 2009 05:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
The only problem with that is it gives parents way too much say. =P It's our wedding, we don't want to be overruled because they're putting in the most money. That's a really big fear actually. That Arwen will, for example, not get the dress she wants because her mom will push for another one that she likes. But it is a good phrase to hold off the rest of the family. Also I've had too much coffee today so I'm rambling.
sylvercheetah From: sylvercheetah Date: October 8th, 2009 09:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
True, if parents are contributing a fair amount to the wedding then the phrase morphs into "You had your wedding, this is mine, thanks."
sylvercheetah From: sylvercheetah Date: October 8th, 2009 09:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
Also, is there such a thing as "too much coffee?" I don't believe it. Such a phenomenon can likely only exist somewhere in the Mists of Avalon; I suppose if Merlin had something to do with it that one could have "too much coffee." But out here in the real world, nah....
bluejaybird From: bluejaybird Date: October 8th, 2009 12:14 pm (UTC) (Link)
It's good that you're starting so early then, if you want June. I think having more than a full year will be plenty to get things reserved. Find out how quickly things get booked and don't put off booking what you want. ;)
ardweden From: ardweden Date: October 14th, 2009 06:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
Tis rather the plan; I'm trying to get an early start so there's less stress at the end. :)
aquahaute From: aquahaute Date: October 10th, 2009 02:12 pm (UTC) (Link)
We managed our June wedding with six months' planning, but we did it on a Thursday and only invited 65 people, about half of whom came, and did it on just over five grand. I had a ton of fun planning it but I'm afraid I would be of no use for anything bigger.

Although let me know if you plan to make any of your own cards or announcements - among my papercrafting supplies is a pretty sweet die-cutting machine and I have a variety of appropriate dies that I could cut shapes from to send you (a bunch of hearts, a "LOVE XING" sign, an engagement ring). We did our own invitations using a recurring motif from one of the dies - look for the picture of the water bottle favors in my wedding album on Facebook for an example of other uses of the die-cut.

If you think you will want a dress with short sleeves, let me know because I know of a brand that specializes in that, but there are only seven shops in Illinois that carry it.
ardweden From: ardweden Date: October 14th, 2009 06:03 pm (UTC) (Link)
I've been poking at dress stuff since I originally had NO IDEA what I wanted; now I'm starting to formulate an idea, but still, it's pretty up in the air. If I do decide on short sleeves, though, I may well hit you up. :)

Also, it sounds like your invitations are awesome! I might have to pester you for help with those, too!
From: dannysmartful Date: October 14th, 2009 05:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
I did get your message, sorry I didn't call you back over the weekend, things got crazy and as a result I honestly I forgot.
I will be around the weekend of the 24th. The only thing that I have going on Saturday morning/afternoon is I have a football game at 1:45pm so that should be over with around 3pm, so if you would like me to come out and hang with you guys I can be there around 4pm-ish. Or if Sunday would be more Ideal I can do that too. ^_^ Would it be ok if I brought someone with me? I honestly don't recall if I mentioned a while back that I've been seeing this guy name Derek. He's really nice and REALLY quite, you'll probably forget he's there (LOL). Anyway, I can't wait to see you both and the ring ~_^

*hugs and kisses*

ardweden From: ardweden Date: October 14th, 2009 06:01 pm (UTC) (Link)
Either of those times are awesome. And I wouldn't mind meeting this Derek, either, though no, you haven't mentioned him. :) (What is it with you and finding guys with the same name as my exes? First a Dave, then a Derek...) Anyway! Yes, let's hang out Saturday or Sunday - or maybe both days! :) Though Dre and I would need to get going Sunday afternoon, of course, as the drive is pretty long and I'll have work on Monday. So Saturday'd probably be preferable.
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